Robert Soelter, LMHCA
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Sometimes we just need support, from the outside, from someone who unconditionally accepts us and our own unique journey. And when this person truly sees us and cares about our personal development – amid the tools and insights they have to offer – we may have just found what our innermost self was seeking.
That’s why I am here… to assist others in getting unstuck and uplifted as they navigate and positively cope with the ongoing challenges and catalysts of life.
Whether you’re struggling with depression, anxiety or anger, self-esteem or addiction, relationships or parenting, finding meaning or purpose, being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), etcetera, it is my passion to reflect back to you your own power, capability and resiliency. Whether you’re pursuing individual, family or couples counseling, you deserve to be heard and understood.
The primary therapeutic approaches that help us with this process entail components of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Humanistic Therapy and attachment theory. And you will likely discover that you have harbored the solutions all along. (It’s amazing what gems can be found when layers of unnecessary angst are removed!)
In my free time, I enjoy the outdoors, usually while hiking, whether with my son, myself or friends. And it’s always nice to finish those days with sushi and a book, or a fire. Playing guitar with the ditties I sometimes write, going to concerts and finding a new mountain or beach to get lost on are mighty enjoyable experiences as well.
Specialties and areas of focus
- Existential Angst
- Relational Issues
- Parenting Struggles
- Life Transitions/Divorce
- Spiritual Growth
- Overwhelming Sensitivity
Q&A with Robert
1.) Some therapists are more comfortable addressing the immediate problem, while others want to focus on the deeper issue. Which are you?
Both. I like to begin where the client takes me (which tends to be the immediate issue) and eventually, depending on the client’s preference and level of readiness (and often on the mood and timing of the particular session), it can be beneficial and enlightening to safely flow together in exploration of the deeper issue.
2.) Do you tend to lead the session, or follow my lead?
There are times for each. And it largely depends on the client’s personality and preference. Especially in the early stages of therapy, it’s imperative that I join with the client’s world, so as to best understand their experience and needs. Once the therapeutic alliance is established, sessions often turn into a “dance” of sorts, a naturally oscillating exchange, and largely dependent on the mood of that particular day/session.
3.) What are your strengths as a therapist?
Curiosity, compassion and collaboration. Being genuinely empathetic / validating / nonjudgmental / accepting / supportive; being real, raw and flexible; seeing all sides and bringing people together; balancing humility with leadership; evidence-based knowledge with provision of skills training; healthy boundaries.
4.) If you had one superpower, what would it be and why?
Can it be a tie?! Either shapeshifting, so that I could experience the flight of an eagle, the play of a dolphin, a tree in the breeze, etc.; or teleportation, to go to any time and place at any time!
5.) What makes you laugh?
I am no stranger to playful sarcasm and being inappropriate (when appropriate ;). Quick-witted people have always impressed me as well. Laughing at my own humanness is enjoyable too… when the ego doesn’t get in the way. There doesn’t seem to be much that doesn’t have a comical angle to it.
6.) Who would you have dinner with, dead or alive?
Would be cool to hear Mary Magdalene’s perspective. But if she’s unavailable, then David Wooderson… “Alright, alright, alright…”