Nicole Hagerty, LMHC
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I understand that relationships are at the core of who we are as human beings and that we desire and pursue intimacy because we were created for relationship. Unfortunately, in life, we experience pain and suffering, death and destruction, and much trauma and loss. These experiences can leave us hurting and feeling empty and alone, and can spur us to seek help and relief.
Whether you are coming to therapy due to loss, an explosive child, a difficult marriage, a deep relational wound, or an overwhelming struggle with anxiety, depression, or sadness— whatever the reason—your decision to seek therapy is a courageous one. Participating in therapy is one way to enter the dark and painful parts of ourselves and our lives. This process allows us to come to know ourselves and others more fully so that we can experience life in a richer, more meaningful way.
I recognize that this kind of change happens when the therapist and client join together to pursue the truth of the client’s experience. This kind of joining or alliance puts in motion the natural process of growth that helps a client enter his or her pain and suffering, which ultimately strengthens the client’s sense of honesty, self-esteem, emotional tolerance, and their capacity for fulfilling relationships.
I believe strongly in this kind of therapeutic alliance and trust it to be a powerful force for change. I aim to provide an intimate and safe space in therapy where my clients can develop a new kind of relationship with me and transformation can occur.
My therapeutic approach is influenced by trainings in relational psychotherapy, attachment theory, interpersonal neurobiology, and trauma recovery. I received my Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor Associate and I am currently pursuing advanced training in trauma through The Allender Center.
In my free time, I enjoy time with my husband and I stay busy raising our two children. I am a lover of people, the Oregon Coast, Pilates, good books, gardening, dancing and a really good hike. I call Washington home but won’t forsake New Jersey, my birthplace.
Specialties and areas of focus
- Attachment issues
- Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
- Relationship issues
Q&A with Nicole
1.) Some therapists are more comfortable addressing the immediate problem, while others want to focus on the deeper issue. Which are you?
Although we will spend time dealing with the specific issues that brought you into counseling, we will also looking at the nature of your relationships with the significant people in your life. I believe relationships are at the core of who we are as humans and that we desire and pursue intimacy because we were created for relationship. Unfortunately in life, it is often these significant relationships that are the source of our greatest joys as well as our deepest hurts. In working together, we will explore the relational patterns and dynamics that have influenced the complexity and intensity of your struggles. It is my desire to help you become aware of the patterns in your thoughts, behaviors, and relationships in order that this new awareness might inform your current and future way of being.
2.) Do you tend to lead the session, or follow my lead?
The therapy experience is created both by the therapist and the client. As such, I believe both participants need to be honest, open and curious. What this looks like will vary by client. I will always strive to listen carefully to your story and ask a lot of questions. I recognize that change happens when you and I join together to pursue the truth of your experience. This kind of joining or alliance puts in motion the natural process of growth that helps you enter your pain and suffering, which ultimately strengthens your sense of honesty, self-esteem, emotional tolerance, and your capacity for fulfilling relationships.
3.) What are your strengths as a therapist?
I truly enjoy and have a genuine interest in other people, and I believe that positive change is possible for my clients. I’ve also been told that I’m an empathic listener, something I will always strive to be for my clients. Being heard is an important component of trust and I hope to create a space where you can say anything you feel you need to without fear or shame.
4.) If you had one superpower, what would it be and why?
The power of omnilingualism: the ability to learn, speak, read, and understand any language without getting training in it. I love people and so much is lost in translation. I know this first hand from some of my experiences abroad. What a gift it would be to be able to connect with anyone in their native language. It also wouldn’t hurt to have traveling be a bit easier…and communications with my husband!
5.) What makes you laugh?
Not being one to make a lot of jokes myself, I do love to laugh, especially in the company of good friends. Some specific things that make me laugh are: men giggling like boys; my children’s contagious, hysterical laughter (often related to gleeful silliness); mischief caught in the act; and, at times, my mistakes.
6.) Who would you have dinner with, dead or alive?
I’d have dinner with the people I’m already dining with: my husband and two daughters, my good friends, new acquaintances and random guests we welcome into our home. I love a good story. Dinner where life is shared is probably my favorite kind of dinner.